If you follow me on Instagram, I am sure you already know the news… But if you don’t, then I am so thrilled to announce that I am pregnant (big WOHOOO) – nearly 5 months in fact! Sorry that it’s taken a bit longer to announce it here on the blog. I waited a while on social media as well – as we were just so overjoyed and happy in having the most amazing and sacred secret to ourselves. At least for a little while. But now all my husband and I want to do, is scream it from the rooftops! To say we are immensely grateful, is an understatement. As the road for us to get there, was not plain sailing…
I guess after we got married, we slowly starting thinking that welcoming a bundle of joy into our lives, would be the next natural step. But we weren’t in any mad rush either – we were only 28 years old, and work for both of us, was really starting to take off at this point. So we took it easy, didn’t focus on it very much, and just decided to wait until it happened naturally (the last thing either of us wanted, was to stress about it). Time went by, we flipped another property and work was just getting busier. But after a year, we started talking about the fact that it wasn’t happening (whilst still being relatively relaxed and easy about it at this stage)…
What I wasn’t so relaxed about however, and what was a pretty obvious warning sign as to why nothing was happening, was that the whole year we were trying – I didn’t have my monthly cycle. I had heard this was a common side-effect after quitting the pill (which I did right after the wedding), and unfortunately for me, it really messed things up for my body. So all I, we, could do, was patiently wait for it to normalise and come back.
After a year it started making an appearance, but never on a monthly basis. Then, after another 6 months, with constantly sporadic (many months, non-existent) cycles – and after a very failed and wrongly prescribed round of Clomid (which turned out to be the worst for my body – and as it was not something I actually needed, I was told afterwards that it had most likely been working in reverse for me, even as a form of contraception!) – I decided to take matters in my own hands, and started looking into natural ways of getting my cycle back. I was recommended an amazing acupuncturist who specialised in fertility, and I started seeing her on a weekly basis. She could quickly confirm that my hormone levels were very imbalanced, and as I wasn’t having a monthly menstrual cycle, I was most likely not ovulating (hence why we were not getting pregnant).
I saw her religiously every week, and the results (in the end), were amazing. Not only did she perform weekly acupuncture on me; she also prescribed some personalised Chinese Herbs, which I took on a daily basis (expensive, but so worth it). After 3-4 months, things started to happen to my body. Every month I started getting all the usual pre menstrual symptoms leading on to my period, with hot flushes (can you believe that I had never had this before?). The Chinese herbs also made me gain some weight, which I had been told I should do, if I wanted to conceive. Slowly, things started to happen, and although it was a very emotionally challenging situation (at this stage, we were both desperate to have a baby) – it was pretty amazing to see how my body was reacting to the acupuncture, the Chinese herbs, the gaining of weight, the cutting down on work, switching from high intensity exercise to calming yoga, and so on.
The weight gain, the PMS symptoms, the monthly menstrual cycle (which was near enough now happening the same time every month – YAY!) – were all very positive signs. I was told it would only be a matter of months, before it would happen.
…and it did, eventually, after nearly 2 1/2 years of trying. We did have to intervene and get some more help towards the end from my doctor to really get things going, but we got there in the end. To say 2016 was the most emotionally challenging, draining, heartbreaking, and confusing year to date – would be an understatement. But it´s also been the most magical start to 2017, where all our dreams have (literally) come true.
The reason for deciding to share this story with you here on the blog (albeit it might not be so relevant for some), is that I only wish that I had known more when I was going through it. I felt so alone and isolated much of the time (especially with so many people around me falling pregnant, it was even harder to talk about it) and personally, it´s been the hardest and most challenging situation I have ever had to face. But please, if you happen to be going through something similar, or you know someone else who is – know that you, or they are not alone. There is so much help and support out there if you seek it out, and I found leaning onto this, and truly believing that one day it would happen, is the reason that we have a little miracle baby growing inside my tummy right now. So if you have any questions, or you just want some friendly advice or support – please don’t be a stranger. You know where to find me.
Naturally, with all of this – my blog will continue to evolve with this change, and I really hope and wish you will continue to be part of it! I will still be posting about my latest fashion buys, beauty tips, interior hacks and travel content – but it will be mixed in with some maternity fashion, beauty pregnancy tips, decorating our nursery, travel adventures with a newborn, and so on.
Lots of exciting things to come, and I can’t wait to continue sharing this exciting new chapter with you all!
Lots of love,